Buffy The Vampire Slayer – Character Signs. Part 4!

Oz: Taurus

Oz was always the Earthy extra in the Scooby gang. Taureans have a calming effect on other people due to their docility and use of passive aggressive sarcasm to avoid confrontation. He was introduced to us as quiet and unassuming, staying in his shell for a long time before the beast within him emerged. After a long while of stewing over past wrongs and arguments, a Taurus will explode in fury to reveal a magnificent temper; werewolf transformations are a means of catharsis for him. Oz is an artistically inclined procrastinator as he plays live music with his buddies while schoolwork goes unnoticed. He is also very tactile in showing his affections. Taureans (arguably) function best in a relationship due to their considerate and sensual nature, as well as their tendency to prioritise other people. A self-assured sign such as Taurus adores their partner, making the end of any relationship even more difficult to process. If there’s one certainty we have regarding Oz, it’s that he’s terrible at goodbye’s. He used his inner strength to leave Willow when he felt ashamed of his infidelity, but he’ll still reminisce about their relationship from time to time.

Dawn: Libra

Libra is a social sign. A person born under this sign actively desires popularity, harmony, and a full love life more than most. Idealism is their default setting, meaning they don’t always know how to obtain the riches they romanticise. Dawn’s ‘damsel in distress’ behaviour is rooted in her preoccupation with outside perception. She deduces that since Buffy is the powerful Slayer, society must view her as the futile little sister, and acts accordingly. This behaviour evolves into a more independent streak later on, but adolescence brings Libra many phases until they decide who they truly are. Libran self-perception will always originate from how they believe other people view them as they want to fit in yet stand out simultaneously, and Dawn clearly yearns to join the Scooby gang in their adventures. Naturally beautiful, a Libra is in high demand when it comes to relationships. It’s something Dawn flirts with when she’s caught in a love spell, yet her attraction turns out to be superficial. A Libra is fickle in matters of the heart, yet disarmingly charming and smart.

Druisilla: Pisces

Cursed with psychic intuition and visions, Druisilla is the ethereal Pisces sign. These people are attuned to their gut instincts more than any other sign, giving them an affinity for occultism. Angel’s malicious character sees vulnerability in her visceral reactions to ordinary events, and her imaginative resources are a factor in his decision to sire her. He also perceived usefulness in her compassionate ability, an endearing girl he reveled in corrupting. Pisces is often beset by passivity and daydreaming, whereby the crude ways of humanity cannot provoke their heightened sensitivity. Despite her considerable cruelty, she relies on the co-dependency she has with both Angel and Spike to comfort and empower her.This reveals the essentially insecure character of a Pisces, whose self-worth is tainted by their acquiescence. Symbolised by two fish, animals are natural companions of this sign as their prominent visual thinking skills engender empathy towards smaller creatures. Druisilla is too preoccupied with assimilating everything around her to dish out puns and throwaway small talk. Unlike every other Sunnydale resident, she’s a mystery in her aloofness.

Buffy character signs Part 1 , Part 2 and Part 3!

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Everyday Sexism in high schools: School dress codes – a personal account.

I’ve juggled many activities to occupy my time since graduating from University. Earlier this year, I decided to utilise my fervent desire to help others by taking a Teaching Assistant position in a high school.

Akin to most support staff, my initial preference was potato-printing with 5 five year olds and talking favourite One Direction members with Year 6’s (previously Zayn, now Harry). Before long however, my recruitment agency intervened to elect me as crowd control and GCSE support to the teens of today; a position in which you are constantly reminded of how quickly youth escapes you, as you are surrounded by people who think anybody 20+ is old.

Fortunately, most teenagers are manageable and the newly-built school is so modern and business-like, (cabinets of laptops for every classroom?!) it bares little resemblance to my own adolescent experience. A hardcore ‘Smiths fan at age 13, school was not my happy place. I was the kind of kid who persistently asked why institutions restrict individual expression and how a maths formula will be useful in the real world?!?! In other words I was a barrel of laughs, yet ‘always a pleasure to teach’. In a pattern familiar to prior generations, I have since learned to feign apathy towards the irrational expectations put upon you in life and thus get on with it.

Women and Self-love

An obvious perk of working with children is your newfound ability to help with their emotional development. Teenage girls are most likely to experience a sudden identity crisis and low self worth – fueled by the pressures of gender discrimination and learned self-objectification. As an adult who only overcame such hurdles after many years of self-taught self-love, the prospect of debugging the Myth of Woman was a big motivation for returning to the dreaded school gates.

My agency gave me the necessary details: arrive early, smart dress code. Conveniently, my wardrobe is full of suit jackets and the only two beauty products I use regularly are mascara and Vaseline. Despite being a tiny 5 “1 (and a half) I ditched my trusty high heels as well. Practicality had finally won; I looked the part of ‘normal person doing a job’.

The Dress (Code)

Monday mornings are universally sluggish. I tend to greet them with caffeine withdrawal and dragging feet but on one particular Monday I felt optimistic for the day ahead. My timetable promised me some friendly Year 10’s and an appeasing balance of literary and numeracy-based subjects. Plus, I donned a new work dress courtesy of my sister’s generosity during the weekend.

History was my appointed lesson after break and Year 11 were revising the topic of Hitler’s Germany, unsurprisingly. Revision lessons don’t require much intervention from support staff so I sat down somewhere to survey progress. After a few minutes, an unfamiliar face asked if there was a TA in the class.

“Great!” I thought, “maybe it’s about a student who needs a scribe or something, at least I have something to do – ” 

“I need to speak to you about the length of your skirt (it was a dress). It’s too short. Now we do actually have a dress code here. *I look down* Well… it rises when you walk, I was watching you walk up the stairs and it was rising up. I’m assuming you live too far away to go home and get changed?”

“Yeah I do. I did think it might be a bit figure-hugging –

It’s not that: it’s too short.

Oh, sorry, so has anyone said anything… –

Several members of staff have made complaints and I’m the business manager. And, some of the boys were looking up your skirt too I think, on the stairs.”

A strange response, not only in how adamant she was to tell me her job title but also that ‘several’ teachers had complained by 11.15am. Particularly when I’d interacted perfectly well with the two teachers who had seen me that morning. I am not the oblivious type so it wouldn’t surprise me if there were some fabrications in her account. She also treated my attempts to communicate with her as though I were an insolent child, rather than an adult trying to be compliant. As she walked away, I compulsively pulled down my already lengthy dress so that it covered my knees while the paranoia I suffered in adolescence clouded my mind. Despite being shamed, I knew I had to walk back into the lesson with confidence: I was supposed to be somebody people respected.

Once I sat down, a feeling of acute self-consciousness overcame me. I hugged my arms for comfort – my mind already reeling off possible culprits of who had gossiped about me behind my back, and why.

The dress I wore.
The dress I wore.

My new found perspective on authority now seemed misguided. There was another lesson to go before lunch and ironically enough, I received two compliments on my dress during that time. 

It’s a frequent occurrence: society is entrenched in misogynistic beliefs, some of which are unknowingly internalised by women and spat back out to make other people feel as small.

Phallocentric Perspectives

Dress codes are inherently sexist because they elevate clothes made especially for men as professional and deem any sign of a female body inappropriate; sexual. The physicality of a woman is different to a man’s, but a female form isn’t necessarily sexual – it just ‘is’. In this specific case, I wore black and white to match school colours, a dress that finishes just above the knee, and flat shoes. There was nothing individual or intriguing about my appearance at all, let alone any sexuality on show. Unfortunately we are conditioned to hypersexualise a woman’s appearance.

Appropriate sign in a US high school
Appropriate sign in a US high school

Incidents like this are being flagged up on various social media sites as people become more aware of the subtle ways in which women are demeaned in their daily lives. I’d like to echo a popular statement on this topic: we need to prevent the objectification of women by teaching boys not to sexualise a girl’s appearance. This opposes the current system of inventing promiscuity from a person’s appearance and blaming them for your own preconceived projection. 

Schools have a responsibility to encourage progressive thinking in their pupils – and staff – including the rejection of gender discrimination. The rejuvenation of what it means to be a feminist will help this evolution take place but until then the internet provides a platform for women to document their experiences publicly. 

When You Love Yourself, Something Magical Happens…

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Sometimes people use loyalty to bind you to the toxic relationship you have with them. Ignore them, you don’t need the approval of anybody but yourself. It’s an act of self-preservation to disconnect from people who treat you badly.

The difference between selfishness and self-love is that the first is done at the expense of what’s better for yourself and others, while the latter is a necessary act of self-care.

Feelings of guilt

For years I let feelings of guilt trap me in toxic relationships (platonic and romantic) and trick me into uncomfortable situations until I realised it’s okay to value your own mental health. Remember to always balance what’s best for everybody involved in every conversation, long-term relationship or ordinary situation. Sometimes you should champion your own needs and sometimes other people take priority -trust your judgement and intuition.

Accepting yourself 

Reject expectations if those ideals hinder your life rather than exalt your happiness. An example would be how women are conditioned into passivity as though they are merely vessels for another person’s happiness. If somebody wrongs you on purpose, you are justified if you show them that actions have consequences. Actively try to accept yourself for who you are as an individual and you will succeed. Cancel out the negative self-talk chipping away at your self-worth because if you set aside limiting beliefs, you can do whatever you want to do. In fact, that’s what you should be doing. You are worthy and free to believe in yourself so you can make the most of life’s blessings.

Internet Nuggets: Angelina Jolie the inspiration, Women’s body hair & Introverts

A lot is happening in the world, all the time.

Here are some entertaining snippets of some of those happenings – may April bring us many more.


Anais Charles recently wrote a personal piece of insight into social stigma surrounding women and body hair, with empowering photography intertwined in the text. Anais Charles: Shame & Women’s Body Hair.

If you dig music written in the minor key with synth sounds and a brooding vocal, Depeche Mode’s classic album Violator is for you.

I have adored Angelina Jolie since I was a young girl for her individuality, compassion and beauty. An ambassador for women and self-expression, she’s now written an open letter to explain her choice to remove female body parts so other women feel no shame in bold self-care.

Maleficent is a wonderful film that saw her excel in the lead role. During her speech at the Kids’ Choice awards, she advocated self-expression by telling everybody that Different is Good.

Jurassic Park & Lego in one sweet fusion. That is all.

More music talk. This time it’s about Manchester’s indie legends James. Brian Eno produced the 1993 album Laid

Graduates are offered a surplus of Sales jobs but can introversion and cold-calling co-exist happily?

Alongside all of this Spring goodness, March has also told us a sombre tale: The end of One Direction as a 5-piece following Zayn Malik’s departure. Solo material is on the way but I predict a modelling contract will be signed within 6 months and he will be the new ‘face’ of the infamous Calvin Klein adverts. The future is bright.

How To Get Retweeted

There are several secrets to successful blogging: many of them I’ve yet to discover. If you define success by the prevalence of your blog in other people’s lives, you’ll probably want to share your website on social media. Obviously.Some secrets however, are not so transparent.

For instance: whenever I share a link to Popculturepartywarrior on Twitter with the hashtag ‘WordPress’ I get retweeted from an account called WordPress Digest.

“_____ favourited your tweet” usually follows shortly afterwards, along with a surge in people enjoying my content. At least, that’s what I assume they’re doing –  all I can see is the viewing figures going up, and if you heed my words, hopefully yours will too. #wordpress

Internet Nuggets: Tips for writers, Lady Gaga & Madonna are comeback Queens, Voting & More!

It’s March, somehow! Spring will fully blossom between the 19th – 21st of the month and with it, the days will finally get brighter. In the meantime, I want to share with you some of the fascinating viewpoints, pop culture highlights and morsels of news I’ve read about over the past few weeks.


Did you catch Lady Gaga at the Oscars? Her phenomenal voice slayed so magnificently, it stunned the fickle media into proclaiming her the comeback Queen.

Speaking of the Oscars, here’s some statistics on how diverse (or not) the Oscar nominees tend to be: White men everywhere.

Women have periods, whereby the uterus releases blood via the vagina for around 7 days of every month. Surprisingly, none of us consider this a luxurious event. –  It needs to stop being taxed as such.

Kurt Cobain was a feminist and his songs reflected his strong views on non-discrimination. Yes, even the unfortunately titled one.

To digress, I’m personally passionate about boldly using split infinitives because the old guidelines are definitely obsolete…

The speculation might be over by now, but Emma Watson’s response to the rumour that she scored a Prince still rules.

Not to shock you, but Apple lied. ‘Shuffle’ isn’t truly random.

THERE IS GOING TO BE AN ‘ADVENTURE TIME’ FILM by the same producers as the Lego Movie and it’s going to be awesome-sauce.

50 Shades of Grey glamourises an abusive relationship and that’s all it does. Take it from someone who knows.

When I discovered Madonna had fallen down a staircase, I mostly hoped it meant her new single gets 10x the radio play, thus silencing the misogynistic notion that she’s “too old” to make music.

If you’re a writer who hopes to produce long fiction one day, I think these 7 tips for writing a novel are pretty useful.

Noel Gallagher insulted another musician again. Only this time it was an ill thought-out slight against Beyonce’s talent.

London is becoming gentrified, including the underwhelming parts I grew up in. A writer produced a thought-provoking piece on the fetishisation of working class culture.

If you live in the UK, you need to vote. There are links to register here.

One of my favourite programmes at the moment is Cucumber, an original drama about LGBTQ lives from stellar writer Russell T. Davies.

Debbie Harry still performs with Blondie and watches The X Factor in her downtime, apparently.

Politics is interesting – don’t let anybody tell you otherwise. Recently I took the ‘Vote for Policies’ survey and this is one I’m keen to see come into fruition.

INXS – Never Tear Us Apart is one of my favourite songs ever. A writer for the AV Club recently agreed with me.


I hope you’ve enjoyed these nuggets! Let me know if any of the articles inspire or enrage you particularly and I’ll respond in kind.

Life Lessons: Things I’ll Never Do To Myself Again

Tonight I’ve been browsing through my ‘Documents’ folder in the hope of mercilessly casting aside useless files from days gone by; it’s a cleansing ritual I do every 4 months to keep my folder neat and my kilobyte figures low.

Deep in the archives, I found a list I’d made whilst in the recovery period from a particularly tough time in my life. Between summer and Christmas of the previous year, I became increasingly depressed and anxious, with copious work demands and faltering personal relationships crushing my spirit. As I’ve mentioned before, I’m a habitual creator of new year’s resolutions and this time it was especially important to ensure I had learned from my mistakes.


Things I’ll Never Do To Myself Again

Lie to myself and deny what I’m feeling
– Think I’m right about everything/everyone
– Disregard my intuition
– Make myself appear smaller or sell myself short
– Overthink – my subconscious will always figure it out
– You can’t intellectualise how you feel so just let feelings happen and rationalise them afterwards 
– Take anybody for granted
– Become emotionally dependent on others
– Offload emotional baggage onto people
– Romanticise a person 
– Try to ‘fix’ anyone
– Think I’m not in control and therefore let others dictate how I feel.


Sometimes we lose ourselves in the process of caring about other people. No matter how rough things get, always take the time to care for yourself.

If you need a starting point, I wrote an ‘everyday self-love’ list here that might help you: A Short Guide to Self-Love.